Christmas is advertised to us as a perfect celebration but it is very easy to forget what Christmas means and to really enjoy it in 2015.
Family is such an important part of Christmas. Christmas hasn’t been the same in my family since the loss of my Grandparents on my mum’s side. They made Christmas, although my Grandad passed away when I was quite young I still have memories of him arguing with the tinsel and drinking lots of brandy around the Christmas season. My Nan would always snow spray the mirror and make a lovely Christmas dinner (the best, it can NEVER be beaten!). Their loss is felt so strongly around Christmas I cannot lie even though I enjoy this time of year more than any other, tears escape my eyes when I think of what they are missing. My Grandpa has also passed away but my Grandma is still with us, at 92 she is doing well but the Christmas traditions on that side of the family has also ceased due to ill health. I know that Christmas is a sad time for anyone who has lost anybody dear to them as it is a time of reflection but it can also be a chance to embrace new family ties and traditions.
I have been with my boyfriend Matt for just over 3 years and this will be our 4th Christmas together. Things that we liked to do around Christmas are now becoming Christmas traditions. Decorating the tree for the first couple of years stressed us out. Why doesn’t it look perfect like everyone else on instagram? How do you put these beads on the tree?! A feeling of inadequacy loomed over us and our far from perfect tree. Now we embrace it, we love our not so perfect tree and funny enough over the years our tree decorating skills are improving! We just needed time.
If you aim for the picture perfect Christmas that you see on the adverts it will never quite live up to it as they are not realistic. Unlike the Littlewoods advert may state not everyone can afford to buy an Xbox, PS4, brand new mobile phone, expensive beauty gifts and lots of toys for Christmas. Since my circumstances have changed with regards to my employment I am more than happy with a clementine (ok, Terry’s chocolate orange) and my family around me. I would be lying if I said that what was happened hasn’t changed my world completely but I am so lucky to have my friends & family around me to support me through it all. I am sorry if this post is little rambly but I am trying my best to keep it together!
How are you planning to really enjoy Christmas?